The One Question That Can Help You in Changing Your Career in Your 30s

Feb 26, 2025

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There’s a moment in your 30s when you stop and think:

"Wait... is this it? This is what I worked so hard for? Waking up tired, sitting in endless Zoom calls, and counting down the hours until the weekend?"

On paper, your career looks fine. Stable job, decent salary, LinkedIn-approved title. Maybe you even have a fancy coffee machine and a “team-building” Slack channel that no one actually uses.

But deep down, something feels off. Like an itch you can’t scratch. A voice in your head whispering:

"I don’t think I want to do this for the next 30 years."

And then comes the big, terrifying question—“Is it time for a career change?”

If you’ve been having an existential crisis at your desk, you’re not alone. Changing your career in your 30s is more common than you think. But before you burn everything down and move to a beach in Bali, there’s one question you really need to ask yourself:

Signs It’s Time for a Career Change in Your 30s

**The One Question That Can Change Everything: “*What Am I Not Seeing?”***

Most people don’t wake up one day with a lightning bolt moment about their dream career. Instead, they sit in quiet frustration, feeling stuck but unsure why.

If that’s you, ask yourself this:

“What am I not seeing?”

No, seriously. Say it out loud.

This question forces you to take off your mental blinders and look at your life from a different angle. It helps you spot:

Hidden career paths you never considered.
Strengths you’ve been undervaluing.
Opportunities you’re ignoring because they don’t fit the “safe” plan.

Sometimes, this question simply sparks new ideas. And sometimes, it completely flips your career script. Just ask my recent client, Theo.

For him, asking this one question was the catalyst that changed everything.

Theo’s Story: The IT Guy Who Was Meant to Perform

Theo spent years working in IT. He was good at it—computers had been his thing since childhood. But every day, he felt like he was just going through the motions.

When we started working together, I asked him: “What are you not seeing?”

As we dug deeper, something fascinating came up: Theo actually loved performing.

He came alive when he was:

Giving inspiring speeches.
Teaching others in a fun, engaging way.
Making people laugh with storytelling.

Yet, he had never considered these things as a career path. Why?

Because he had always seen himself as “the tech guy.”

Like so many of us, Theo was stuck in the identity he built for himself. He had been focusing on what he was skilled at instead of what actually lit him up inside.

This realization opened the door to exciting new career possibilities he hadn’t considered before.

What to Do When You Feel Stuck in Your Career

Most of us go through life focused on what we’ve always done, what we’re used to, and what we’re good at. But what if that’s not the full picture?

What if the thing you should be doing—the thing that would actually light you up—is something you’ve been brushing aside as “just a hobby” or “not a real career”?

It’s time to take a step back and ask yourself some eye-opening questions:

What parts of my work do I actually enjoy? (Not “tolerate” or “am good at.” Actually enjoy.)
When do I feel completely in flow—so engaged I forget to check my phone?
What compliments do I keep dismissing? (“Oh, it’s nothing” … but is it really nothing?)
What have I always loved doing, even as a kid?

For Theo, it wasn’t just writing code. It was sharing knowledge, making technical topics exciting, and connecting with people through storytelling. He wasn’t just a developer—he was a performer, a teacher, a speaker who could make even the driest tech concepts feel inspiring.

For you? It might be something completely different. But here’s the truth:

The patterns are already there—you just have to start paying attention.

Overcoming Career Blockage and Changing Your Career in Your 30s

Just because you’re skilled at something doesn’t mean it’s right for you.

Theo was a talented IT professional. He could build apps, fix networks, and solve complex technical problems. But something always felt… off. It wasn’t until he acknowledged his love for connecting, inspiring, and bringing ideas to life that things started to click.

So many people feel this way, but they stay stuck. They stay in careers that don’t excite them just because they’re good at them.

They may rationalize it with thoughts like:

“I should be grateful—I have a good job.”
“I’m good at this, so it must be the right path for me.”
“I’ve already invested so much time in this field; I can’t change now.”

But let’s flip that thinking:

Would you tell your best friend to stay in a job that drains them—just because they’re good at it?
Would you encourage someone to ignore their natural gifts because they already put years into something else?
Would you accept living the next 30 years feeling uninspired because, hey, the paycheck’s decent?

Career fulfillment isn’t just about competence—it’s about feeling energized, engaged, and excited about what you do. And if that excitement isn’t there? That’s your sign.

How We Overlook Our Natural Strengths

Some of your greatest talents are probably hiding in plain sight.

You know that thing you do effortlessly—the thing people always praise you for, but you brush off like it’s no big deal? Yeah, that’s a big deal.

Theo never thought of himself as a performer. He saw himself as a “tech guy,” someone who coded, built apps, and solved complex IT problems. But when he looked back, the signs were everywhere:

He had given inspiring speeches—so powerful that people told him they cried.
He had a gift for teaching—breaking down complicated topics and making them exciting.
He had even dabbled in voice acting—and kept hearing that he had a great voice.

Yet, he never put those pieces together because… well, it was just who he was.

We all have these blind spots. The things that come naturally to us often seem too easy to be valuable. But guess what? The stuff that feels effortless to you is probably excruciating for someone else. That’s your magic.

So instead of asking yourself what you’re good at, ask yourself these 3 questions:

What do I do so effortlessly that I assume everyone else can do it too?
What do people ask me for advice on—again and again?
If I had to teach a class on something tomorrow, what topic would I feel excited to share?

These clues aren’t random—they’re pointing you toward your hidden strengths and passions.

Unlocking New Career Directions

For Theo, realizing his passion for performing changed everything.

He no longer saw himself as just a developer. Instead, he saw how he could blend his technical expertise with his natural ability to engage, inspire, and connect with people. Suddenly, his career options expanded in ways he had never imagined.

Instead of feeling boxed in by the traditional IT path, he started exploring exciting, unconventional directions:

Developer Evangelism – Speaking at conferences, engaging with the tech community, and making complex coding topics feel fun and accessible. (Imagine TED Talks, but for developers.)
Public Speaking & Teaching – Mentoring aspiring developers and proving that tech doesn’t have to be dry and robotic. (Because let’s be real—most coding tutorials could use a little personality.)
Content Creation – Making YouTube videos that break down technical concepts in a way that’s actually engaging and useful. (Think: “How to Debug Like a Pro” but with real storytelling and humor.)
Voice Acting & Podcasting – Exploring opportunities to use his voice in professional ways—whether through narration, podcasting, or presenting in a way that brings technical topics to life.
Building His Own Brand – Combining his love for tech and storytelling to create a career that’s uniquely his own. Whether through teaching, speaking, or creating, he saw a future that actually excited him.

Instead of feeling trapped in a career he had outgrown, Theo realized he had options. And, most importantly, the freedom to design a career that energized him—instead of one that just looked good on paper.

Breaking Through Career Blockage: 3 Key Steps

Feeling unfulfilled in your career is frustrating—but feeling stuck? That’s even worse. It’s like knowing you need a change but having no clue where to start.

So, let’s start here.

I challenge you to ask yourself the same question Theo did:

“What am I not seeing?”

Once you do, take these steps:

1️⃣ Reflect on What Energizes You

Think about the moments when time flies—when you're so engaged that you forget to check your phone. It could be solving a tricky problem, leading a brainstorming session, or explaining something in a way that clicks for someone else. Your career sweet spot isn’t just about what you’re good at—it’s about what lights you up.

💡 When do you feel the most alive at work?

2️⃣ Identify Recurring Patterns

We all have themes that pop up in our lives, but we don’t always recognize them. Maybe people always come to you for advice, but you’ve never thought of yourself as a mentor. Maybe you’ve been the go-to person for troubleshooting, but never considered making that your niche.

💡 What’s the common thread in the things you naturally do well?

3️⃣ Seek Outside Perspective

Sometimes, we’re too close to our own skills to see them clearly. That’s why outside input is gold. A career coach, mentor, or even a friend who knows you well can point out strengths you’ve been overlooking.

💡 Ask someone: “If you had to describe what I’m great at in three words, what would they be?” You might be surprised by what they say.

4️⃣ Explore New Possibilities

Just because you’ve always worked in one industry doesn’t mean you’re stuck there. Start researching roles that align with what actually excites you. Tech people pivot into education. Finance pros move into coaching. Marketers become UX designers. The options are endless.

💡 If you had to switch careers tomorrow, what’s a field that secretly excites you?

5️⃣ Take Small Steps

You don’t have to quit your job tomorrow. Test the waters. Speak at an event. Take a course. Shadow someone in a different role. Start a side project. Tiny steps build momentum—and before you know it, you're moving in a new direction.

💡 What’s one small action you can take this month to explore a new career path?

The key? Stop waiting for clarity to magically strike. It comes from taking action.

So—what are you not seeing?

FAQs About Changing Your Career In Your 30s

What is the best career to start in your 30s?

The best career is one that matches your strengths, interests, and the kind of work you actually enjoy doing. Many people pivot into tech, UX design, healthcare, consulting, or entrepreneurship because these fields offer flexibility and growth. But instead of chasing the "hottest" industries, focus on what excites you. A great career isn’t just about making a living—it’s about making your work feel alive.

Is it normal to change careers at 30?

Absolutely. In fact, it’s more common than ever. By 30, you’ve gained enough experience to know what doesn’t work for you, and you still have decades ahead to build a career that actually fits. Plenty of people pivot in their 30s—some even multiple times. The key isn’t when you change—it’s whether you’re moving toward something that excites you instead of staying stuck in something that drains you.

How to find a new career path at 30?

Start by getting curious. What tasks or activities do you naturally enjoy? What problems do you love solving? Talk to people in different industries, take online courses, and test new skills through side projects or volunteering. Working with a career coach can also help you uncover strengths you might be overlooking and give you a roadmap for your next steps. Career clarity doesn’t come from overthinking—it comes from doing. Small steps—like attending a networking event, shadowing someone in a role that interests you, or getting expert guidance—can open doors you never even knew existed.

About Career Coach & Author

Theresa White, Career Clarity Expert, 5x Certified Career Coach, and the Founder of Career Bloom, is known for her expertise in guiding people to get unstuck and find the direction they need to move forward in their careers—fast. In a time when so many people are re-evaluating their work, Theresa offers actionable insights that empower clients to identify their true strengths and pursue work that genuinely aligns with their goals.

Theresa’s clients often call her sessions “epiphanies” and “transformational.” She brings immediate clarity to career goals, helping people unlock a deep understanding of what makes work fulfilling for them. Past participants consistently describe her approach as “spot on” and an “answer to questions they’d been asking for weeks.”

Theresa’s approach is empathetic yet practical, and she’s known for empowering clients with a clear direction in as little as 30 days, guaranteeing results.

Connect with Theresa on LinkedIn, listen to the Career Clarity Unlocked Podcast, or schedule your free 30-minute career clarity consultation.

Your Career Should Energize You

You weren’t meant to spend your life in a job that leaves you numb. Work shouldn’t just be about getting through the day—it should challenge you, excite you, and remind you what you’re capable of.

The key isn’t just finding a career you’re qualified for—it’s finding one that fuels you. The kind of work that sparks ideas, pulls you in, and makes time fly. A career where you’re not just clocking in—you’re fully in.

And the moment you stop asking, “What makes the most sense?” and start asking, “What makes me feel alive?”—everything shifts.

So, what about you? What are you not seeing?

Your next career breakthrough could be just one question away.

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